The more time you spend on her, the better the sex will be.
Let’s face it; every guy wants a better sex life. Even if you have a fantastic time between the sheets, in the back of your mind you’re probably wondering if there are ways to make it even better. Rather than focusing on what would make it better for you – think about what would make it better for her.
If you’ve been a bit selfish in the bedroom, it’s time to make some changes. The truth is sex is better when each of you is focused on giving the other one pleasure. Take the time to raise her sexual temperature, and she’ll do the exact same for you.
*Don’t Forget Foreplay
We can’t stress the importance of foreplay enough. Just because you’re raring to go after a few minutes (maybe seconds) of kissing and caressing, that doesn’t mean she is. Spend some quality time on presex play to get her in the mood. (News flash: even if she’s willing to have sex with you, this doesn’t necessarily mean she’s in the mood.) Engage in a naughty game of truth or dare, or listen to sexy music and slowly strip each other.
*Know Where to Touch
Hopefully you know the basic erogenous zones, but these aren’t the only places a woman likes to be touched. The forearms are a great place to caress your girl; her arms are packed with pleasure nerves that respond best to slow strokes. These “C-tactile” nerve fibers send signals to the limbic system – an area of the brain associated with trust and affection. When you involve a woman’s emotions, her sexual temperature rises. (Note: these fibers are also located on the face and legs.) The key is to find out where your girl likes to be touched, so pay attention to the responses she gives you when you stroke or caress a certain area. If you read her body language right, you’ll make it better for both of you.
*Say it Like You Mean It
Sexual suggestions, innuendos, and dirty talk are all good ways to spice up your sex life, but those aren’t the only things your woman wants to hear. A survey of more than 2,000 women revealed a common trait – insecurity. We may act self-assured and confident, but once our clothes come off, we’re anxious and unsure. We need frequent and enthusiastic compliments to help us get that confidence back. Tammy Nelson, Ph.D, a licensed psychotherapist and author of Getting the Sex You Want says the more a compliment is tailored to that specific woman, the more intimate and effective it is. She explains, “Use sensory words, like ‘Your breasts are so soft,’ ‘I love the way you smell,’ ‘I love the sound of your voice.’ The more detailed your praise, the more personal it is to her – it shows her that you derive pleasure from her body, not just from any naked body.”
“Compliments lose credibility when they’re paid in response to a statement of insecurity,” says Robin Kowalski, Ph.D, professor of psychology. So if you think she looks awesome in her new nightie, don’t assume she knows you think so. If she has to ask – even if you tell her she’s gorgeous – she won’t believe you.
Another important way to get your girl hot is to create a sense of urgency. Telling her you want her right here, right now is a major turn on. When a woman feels desired, all she wants to do is make you even more excited. If you make it seem like you have to be with her right this second or you’re just going to explode – it will turn the dial from lukewarm to boiling hot. The more effort you put into getting her as aroused as possible will pay off big time for you both.
Original:http://www.rosebudmag.com/sex-tips/make-her-hot-020411
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